Can relate to what you're going through!
I'm finally starting to make a couple of new friends after almost 2 years sober. It is not easy. I even attended a bible study my first year or so where all the women had wine (most nights) except for me! The good news is it gets easier all the time but I still have some days where I do not even come close to marking the things off my "to do" list. I have to say it's thing like joining groups, AA meetings, etc. where you have the best chance of meeting others who do not drink.
If you're open to a women's AA meeting, you will most likely make friends very quickly. And soon you will be having coffee and good conversation on a sunny day!