Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
I can't recall a single incident of expressing anger in a healthy way as a child.
Ditto for me on this. I also can't recall ever seeing anger expressed in a healthy way when I was young. Just did some work on this in my step 4 inventory.
It was either an explosion of terrifying rage, holding it in and taking it out on a "safe" target- someone younger or weaker, or my grandmother's (alcoholic dad's mom) patented "long game" of revenge. She would hold onto an incident (however petty or small) for days or weeks or months, then when the unsuspecting victim was lulled into complacency- payback time. Not in a loud or mean way, but totally passive aggressive, and she always made sure you knew that she was "getting you back" for whatever you had done to upset her.
