Originally Posted by
Dee74 
Saying no used to make me sick - physically sick.
I didn't like myself, so I other wanted people to like me for validation, no matter what the cost.
I got sober and learned to like myself. No comes a lot easier now
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I couldn't have said it better.
I'll also add that as hard as it is to say no (even now) the people that deserve to share in the good life that you've now chosen will remain. Those who don't will disappear. I see no negatives there!