If you think you have a problem, you probably do. I spent over 10 years thinking to myself all the things that you are thinking before I even attempted to do anything about it (only 10 days ago). No one ever intervened and told me I needed to to do something. I never lost a job, wrecked my car, got arrested, etc., but I know that I have a problem and that if I don't address it now...well, nothing good will happen.
I think you will find this place is a real help in terms of answering questions and getting support to get and stay sober.