I hear you!
I've been trying to grasp hold of the "new reality" in my life since I decided to file for divorce. Is it possible that his drinking is no longer any of my business?????!!!????!?
Well then what, in God's name, am I suppose to obsess on now?????
(As far as people being able to turn off the destruction and clean it up quickly? I kind of doubt it. But, I believe we, ourselves, always heal faster when we choose to be happy for other people. In a way, it sounds to me like that's what you've decided to do. You're right to put the drama behind you. I think I'll join you and put my drama behind me as well. Spring is a great time to start anew.)