Laughing about this one driving today.
Some months back here was some woman that checked into the Friends and Family Addict Forum, just below.
She was NOT a Codie. Hubby had hid his addiction(s) before they were married, and of course, they did not stay hidden too long. She said This Crap was NOT what she signed up for.
She gave him a month to get things cleaned up.
She was done with him in a little over 3 weeks, as I recall.
Just Dumped Him.
I think her reasoning was that he would not clean up in 4 weeks what he had not cleaned up in 3 weeks.
We could learn something from that.