I'm part of the hated-on club. He will tell everyone that he doesn't hate me, that I'm a wonderful person. It's the actions though. The actions say, "You are making my life harder. I hate you."
It takes time to not care. You'll probably always have the scar from this. I know I will. I think one day we'll be indifferent or not take it personally, the way we do with toddlers during tantrums. It won't hurt so bad.
We need more time with people who value us and validate our personalities and love.