um, maybe HE is just a big fat jerk? what he thinks, what he says, those things belong to HIM. if he thinks you are the scourge of the earth for WHATEVER reasons, that still belongs to HIM. he's the messed up one hon....and it sounds like he was working on being that messed up person for a LONG time.
sure he's bitter....you wouldn't play along anymore, you wouldn't tolerate the drunkenness and abuse....and now the courts say he has to pay for that through spousal support. he doesn't get to go off and blow off all his responsibilities, doesn't get rewarded for being a d*ckhead, wherever HE goes, there HE is - the jackass who mucked it all up big time.
know your truth.