Originally Posted by
lillamy 
I think they have healthy boundaries and know where they end and where the other person starts. his anger would have been mine and I would have seen it as my job to make it go away.
Yes, this is exactly how I felt. Our moods had to be in perfect synch. I could not allow him to feel what he felt if it was different than where I was at, had to convince him that he was not really feeling what he was feeling or else, if I happened to accept that he
was actually feeling whatever it was, I had to convince him that there was no
reason for him to feel it and so he should change how he felt...
Good lord, it is so insane, looking back!