I think they are. I think they have healthy boundaries and know where they end and where the other person starts. I look at some of my friends who can say things like "My husband is in a foul mood today, stomping around and grumbling. So I decided to come have coffee with you so he could settle down." When I was a full-blown codie, I would never have done that because his anger would have been mine and I would have seen it as my job to make it go away.