I think they are, yes. Because detachment is about not getting so wrapped up in another person that you lose yourself. Healthy relationships don't involve obsession, having your emotions massively affected by that of the other person (feeling down or happy because they do), trying to control each other or feeling responsible for each other's actions.
Detachment is only talked about among our circles because it is not our usual state of mind so it's something we have to identify and name in order to understand.
Therefore, it is perfectly possible to detach with love. I would say it's actually more loving to detach than otherwise. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would much prefer a man who knew who he was and what he was about than one who was obsessed with fixing me!