fairlyuncertain, just know that you can do it.
I was a long term person. I don't pride myself for that. I will never give myself pats on the back for that. I know what you are dealing with. You need support. I would suggest alanon, but if you can't get there, this board, and I will never give up on you. We are here for you. Talk to us. I knew everything for many years. It really does do a mindf..k on you.
Here for you and ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))