Hi jake - I hope the book helps
I think a lot of us are conditioned to look for answers or solutions outside ourselves - be it a drink, a drug or a person. We'd much rather do that than look inward.
For me a large part of recovery has been realising I don't need that external validation.
It was not easy for me to get to grips with my own company sober, but I'm glad I did it.
my relationships are a *lot* better without the underlying desperate need to be loved too
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