I felt the same way the first time I joined. "No one really cares. They are all so cliquey. Why does no one talk to me? Why aren't they helping me?" I never shared much. Think I spoke one time at one meeting.
This time around I share. I tell them when I'm struggling. I tell them when I want to drink. I tell them that I have trouble picking up the phone, dragging my butt to meetings, that I feel alone and still struggle with acceptance and the first step. That I don't want to do the steps but will do so if it means I can have what the Promises offer. That I'm newly sober and still waiting for that miracle to happen. I thank them for being there to listen to me. I find people much more receptive to me now that I am opening up. I thank people after meetings who shared something that struck me - never did that before.
I also keep my expectations low. I no longer go expecting people to behave a certain way so I'm never disappointed.