Originally Posted by
Starbright4 
Thank you all for your advice. I know in my heart I need to end this relationship. I was listening to his words and ignoring his actions. I have a quality of finding good in everyone sometimes to my detriment.
Starbright, you are so right to find good in everyone, b/c it is indeed there! But sometimes it's simply not enough to stick around for...the abuse, denial and lies just outweigh any possible good.
You are wise to learn to watch his actions rather than listen to his words. That is really key in figuring out what is for real and what is not.
Hang around--there is a lot of support and caring here.