MissFixit

One big thing, there was no one to stand up for me or be a buffer. My father is a golden boy. He is handsome, a lawyer, church leader, community service leader and appears wealthy. It is like a split personality. One way in public, another way at home. He was verbally abusive to me on a daily basis and occasionally physically abusive (threw me into things, face slaps when I was little). This all started after he divorced my mother and she wasn't there to fight with him. I was the oldest, so I got his wrath. My little sister was treated like angel. I was blamed for anything wrong in his life. I assume because he couldn't accept that he was ever wrong or at fault. I have almost nothing to do with him anymore but when I see or talk with him, the abuse starts almost immediately. I get away from it. I am his target, don't know why. A therapist once said it is because I hold him accountable. Some kind of obsessive control issue. My sister told me she thinks it is because dad loves her more. Some time long ago he made a choice to love her and not me, it is weird as hell. With all that, he was very kind for brief moments. Enough to pull me back in and let my guard down.

My mother had a brain injury and attempted suicide more than a dozen times. He had her declared unfit when I was little. She has issues too obviously. It is amazing my sister and I are not serial killers.

I think you really need to be diligent about documenting ALL abuse, anything and everything. Can you have him declared unfit?

I don't know if it is possible, but weren't you considering moving away? Since he has some documented child abuse, would after this school year, be a good time to move away and start fresh? Is that even possible.