not without recovery, I think for those affected by alcoholism or other dysfunctions a lot of healing is needed. I know of friends who have those alien loving and nurturing, let each other be as they are, kind of families but not I....I am grateful my extended family lives on the other side of the world.Sometimes I miss them but when I see communities of "families" using the word love when they really mean, obey me or I will cut off and manipulate you it makes me feel sick and GLAD I am spared that crap.
Love is not guilting your kids or paying back squat. Kids don't owe anything -