MightyFlea21 - I'm a 41 year old mother of 3 and I've asked myself that question many times. I finally got to the point where I knew if I didn't want to be that person or feel that way anymore I had to do whatever it took to stop it. I had to want it more than I wanted to drink. I had to accept that in trying to escape life's stress, I was only creating more stress for myself and in the end losing myself entirely. I had to be willing to feel uncomfortable. It's not easy to break the drinking cycle but it will get easier. You can do this.