Return of the sex drive... and then some
I have a problem that I honestly haven't really read about. I've heard of people having trouble with sexual drive in sobriety, but not the opposite!
You see, my husband's 4 months sober, now. He's looking better, feeling better; so much so, a waiter at a restaurant we used to go to all the time noticed last night!
The problem I'm having is that his sex drive, which was nonexistent, and when it happened he was non-functional, has turned on big time!
The thing is, I'm not a super sexual person, myself. I don't want it more than once a week, if that. I don't mind him masturbating, or watching porn; it gives him a way to not bug me, LOL.
The problem is, it's almost become an obsession! One night this week, he was "organizing his porn collection" for more than two hours! I'd had a long day, mostly doing things out of the house, and came home from Al Anon ready to spend time with him, but instead, he spent two hours on the computer! I painted my nails, and went to bed.
Tonight, he did it again; every time I walked by the bedroom (we sleep separately, now, thanks to other sleep issues he has) and he was watching porn on his tablet.
The last thing I need is another addiction; frankly, I don't have the energy to battle two! I don't think he's addicted, yet, but there's some concerning signs, like trying to hide something he knows I don't mind. It's just weird.
I know I probably need to talk to him about it, and I likely will, when I'm not so irritated at the kids and him both. But I wondered if anyone else has experienced something like this when sobriety finally happened?