im in the uk txhelp.. i went to a "free" therapy place and they took one look at me and rang the local psych team, telling them that i was beyond their capacity and that i needed help NOW, but with a national health system comes pitfalls as well, as resources have to be distributed and unfortunately in this area, there is a lot of drug use (hence AH is getting all the help HE needs and more) and mental illness, so you go on waiting lists.
Unless you are a danger to the public or your children, you just have to hang in there and tough it out.. ive asked for help so many times now, just to be told "wait for your letter" it gets disheartening and i even question if im really bad enough to warrant that kind of input. On my really bad days, i desperately need help.. on my not so bad days i can sort of help myself