myheartaches

Well I never said it was easy...having lived with an abuser myself and having divorced him which took almost 8 years. Actually, I starved for years afterwards and suffered much myself in many other ways due to what he put me through, and also what I put up with.

I was just speaking what I believe is the truth.


There is no negotiating with any type of abuser, addict, alcoholic, mental, physical, neglectful person who isn't ready to get clean and sober on their own terms and who makes an HONEST attempt.

I'm just stating the best advice I can give from my experience.


I hope for the best for anyone who is going through this. Of course, myself being a former believer in that good will come out of staying with someone who uses and abuses drugs, alcohol, me, himself, others, out of love, false promises, the romantic element in possible recovery and a miracle from heaven, but I've learned a few lessons.

Of course, each person has to decide what is best for them.