Originally Posted by
SierraRose 
I checked in Australia.. my local al anon meeting place is about 40 mins from here. it might be a good idea to pop along.. or to ring first?
There is no need to ring first; you can just show up at the meeting and you'll be welcomed. However, if you want to make certain the meeting listed is in fact current before driving 40 minutes, then definitely do check before making the drive.
There is no need for you to share any more than you feel comfortable with at the meeting, and in fact no need for you to speak at all if you don't wish to; you can simply listen if that feels right to you at that point.
If you're interested in doing some reading to help you understand the Alanon program and how it works, there is a lot of Alanon literature on Amazon, and much of it is available used to save some $$. I found this helpful when I was first getting acquainted w/the program.
You seem very open to learning about all of this, and that will only serve you well as you move forward. Good work so far!