Chino that's good advice. What for the question. Before when he was actively using a lot I would offer things before he had to ask because it seemed to keep the peace even though I knew what he was doing and he knew I knew but wouldn't admit it.
Now that things are gray, I'm still doing the same thing, and if he's not using, it looks like "accusations" again to him, so even more important to "wait for the question."