The non codependent dinner table:
Day 1
You drink too much. Pass the peas.
Week 3
If you want to keep drinking that's fine for you. I'm not okay with it. I'm deciding what that means for me. Sorry I burned the steak. Don't forget dinner with the Smiths on Saturday.
Month 2
Yep, I'm done with your controlling deceitful behavior. I leased an apartment and am leaving. Here, have some pasta. I left a few meals in the fridge and my number on the wall in case you decide to change before I find someone new. Love you.
IMHO, you can't be in an addictive relationship for long before you develop some codependent behaviors, even if you didn't have them to begin with. And I'm the queen of denial on this one!