Emmy--I just posted on your other thread about making a police report and having a consultation with a lawyer. Wisconsin makes very good points, in my opinion.
If his mother has flown a long way to be here--can't you imagine that she will want to see her grandchildren?
I know you are still angry and running on adrenalin a lot, right now---a good thing.
The hard time--when you might begin to soften--is when he turns into "nice guy" or decides to begin to harass you.
dandylion