Dee! What a great post. But I have to say, it's rattled me to the core. I had 2 older brothers, one a musician, and a good one. Strokes, heart attacks, and years of suffering until they passed on, they never got a grip with their drinking. I wait now for another older brother to pass on, same story. All to stubborn to ask for help. At one time, I did try to help one of them, but he struggled terribly with a higher power.
So PROUD of you.
Big hugs.