Originally Posted by
carmen220 
I know that he has OCD. I don't know about the NPD. I do know that he started in high school because he was incredibly shy; it brought him out of his shell and it was cool to "party". I sometimes think he has borderline, due to his symptoms, but then again, it may just be due to the alcohol.
Imagine all the things you could be doing with your life if you weren't so caught up in diagnosing and fixing this man so you can have a relationship with him. Seriously. I guarantee he's not spending nearly as much time examining himself as you are.
Go do something for yourself and get this guy out of your head for awhile.