I have often read ...take addiction out of it, is this or that behavior acceptable? While that did make sense....I would think but I can't take addiction out of it because he is now an addict and always will be. I continued to split him in 2, the past and present, the recovering, and the active.
Today, I have changed it around to - take the person out of it, is active addiction acceptable?
The answer is no! The person I loved is now just a host. I am only dealing with that nasty, evil addiction. The visual of a satanic monster comes to mind.