Yes unfortunately, it is normal for an A to say all of those things. After awhile we get so used to it, we get confused with what's acceptable behavior. And it seems an active A will say all those nasty things while drunk, and while sober. I heard it for 10 years, what a bad mother/wife I was, and how everything I did was wrong. Well, my RAH quit drinking 4 months ago and he completely stopped saying those things to me. I mean, it's scary how conditioned I became to hearing it, it's almost weird now how I make dinner and he isn't criticizing what it is, how I prepared it, etc.. He just takes the plate and says thanks. Not that everything is all roses though, he is a changed man these days, definitely broken because of a decade of alcoholism. I'm sorry you are going through this, it's the worst. I hope to never have to experience it again, but I just take it one day at a time.
