Connop1, it's fabulous that you are keying in to the AV and how it operates. Excellent. It throws out altogether reasonable suggestions, a logical sounding compromise between competing goals, all that stuff. But we know that there is no compromise, there is no mediation, there is no discussion. There is only recognition, and acceptance.
For me, the other side of my AV is the self criticism or self doubt, and this is even more insidious as it seeks to undermine not only the resolve to quit, but self worth as well.
I think I am going to enjoy reading your posts very much, connop1. You are most welcome here.