I think the fact that they are not mentioning her, missing her, or thinking too much about her is a sign of health. That they have identified with you two as being their "real" parents. That they are secure in knowing you two will love and care for them..won't abandon them and will be there for them. Honestly, IMO DNA does not make a parent. A parent is the one who loves, cares, and provides a secure home environment for a child. A parent is the one who wakes-up at night, sacrificing his/her own sleep to care for a sick child. The one who works hard and supports a child, makes sure he/ she has nutritious meals, warm clothes and a roof over their head. The one who guides the child and teaches him/her the difference between right and wrong....nurtures the child's spirituality, makes sure the child is well educated. All the while providing love and stability in their life. This is the huge difference between their bio mom and you. You are there for them and she is not....and they know that.
