So sorry you are going through this. As a child of an alcoholic father, I can tell you that growing up was difficult. My parents divorced then remarried 8 years later. Though we were poor during the years they were divorced, all three of us children were much happier. Just my experience. Today, I have a fantastic relationship with my RA Dad. He's helping me through all this "stuff" with my AH. But I had to learn to forgive all the horrible memories I had growing up. Tough to do.