Hopeful4,
I, too, started thinking about my kids. Trying to remember when they were little and I would be having crazy, emotional meltdowns because I was so frustrated with my life. I had a few where they didn't respect their toys and I would pack them all up and threaten to throw them out. To me, it was just frustration building up and needing to release it. To them, it must have been scary watching the stability of their life get all whacked out.
I can see now how my daughter really avoids conflicts and confrontations and when her brother and father are arguing, she wants no part of it.
Not sure how I can fix anything that's affected them as they are now teenagers and the damage would have been done years ago.
I guess it's the nature of parenting. We are doing the best we can under the circumstances we are in....
