I think a lot of women alcoholic do not fit the mold of the selfish white dude with a huge ego outlined in the big book but rather our drinking is a symptom of our codependency. We tend to be responsible caretakers and the tension will build, a tension that drinking can relieve: our little personal time that after all we earned considering how much we do for others.
One thing I like about the women for sobriety program (cannot attend because of schedule) is that it focuses on rebuilding our sense of self worth and acknowledging that we are strong and competent.