Originally Posted by
giliji 
I'm tired of hearing lies.
Understand that. When you start hearing (or likely have, I suppose) his lies coming back from other folks who are trying to make sense of things -- it really gets weird. And More Tiresome.
Although I'm tempted to ask him to honestly tell me if he was drinking while he was out of town last week. But I don't know what that will accomplish.
Let me guess. More Lies? And then Lies About the Lies?
Hammer he is actively drinking but won't admit it and drinks secretly.
ahhhh. So you have a looonnnnggg road ahead. Well makes for Plenty of Time to Work on YOUR Side of things, I suppose. Which is really a Very Good thing.
Once you hit into the Steps, the lying is just background noise, like a passing car, or crickets chirping or something. Someone will say something about something like his lying and it sort of sounds like the weather -- Cold Day out today -- Yeah sure is -- and then move on to what actually interests you.
You only have to sit and deal on the misery side of this as long you have to or you need to.