Good for you Itsmylifenow. My ABF and I had broken up twice previously. I knew I was really done this time when he called me a pretentious bi*** among other things. He also tried to make me feel bad about my past which is pretty CHASTE, claiming it must be that way because no other man wanted me. He refused to believe that I took time off from dating because of medical issues. I knew I was permanently done that day! My parents had a lot of issues but I never heard my father talk to my mother that way, or anyone in my family for that matter. I refused to be with someone I had to try to convince I was a good person. I found SR after we broke up because I needed to wrap my head around the whole thing and it has helped immensely. Thanks to all the posters on SR.