Great post. This is about where I am in my recovery. I was also very well-schooled in playing the victim, never taking responsibility for my part in any of the bad stuff.
Now that I'm learning to do that, it's a huge weight off, and I've been able to work through a lot of anger. I thought it was anger at others, but a lot of it was actually at myself. I guess now it's the time to work on forgiveness too.