thanks
Thanks for your input. It almost sounds like it will be partly parenting/environment and partly just how the child is in general (cross your fingers and hope). The thing that really gets me is that my AH thinks he is just as capable drunk as he is sober. I guess I need to videotape him in action sometime and show it to him when he is sober. I just love the slurred speech, running into furniture and just general impairment. And the smell of stale beer is just sickening. It probably won't be for a long time yet, but someday I'll leave because he isn't the type to admit he has a problem or get treatment. I just can't envision myself putting up with a lifetime of this. And I applaud those of you who did leave. That must take a lot of courage and strength -- an inspiration.