Originally Posted by
MissFixit 
Hi Lewis,
You were wondering if your wife would quit when you split, now you know. Not always, but usually this is what happens...they have more time to drink without anyone breathing down their necks about it so it continues. Her drinking was never about you or your marriage. It is about her..
It is interesting what she will do.
I hear from the 13 year old that she drinks in semi-secret (so keeps the can hidden from the younger ones)......it must be quite scary for her to realize that it is something she just can't stop...and there's not much else she can do to alter her life to help.
By which I mean she used to say "I'll stop when we split" - so she had a change to look towards that would be her springboard to success.
She hasnt that anymore....any change has to come from her, not her environment.