I have done this to myself numerous times. They know what we need to hear, how to convince us because we sooooo want to believe them. They know how to play the game, its up to us whether they win or lose. Right now I am in this mess once again. Took the kids and left on Saturday. He has been pretty good for past month or so, but I left anyway. I know what is coming. He is playing the game now, telling me how much he loves me and once we are financially out of the hole that things will be better. He wants to spoil me again, do things as a family, etc,etc,etc. He has had 13 yrs to do this!!!!! Why is this time any different than the other times I left????? It is very hard to let them go, and I'm hoping I can stick to my guns this time, not for me but my kids. I know I will always love this man, but I need to remember that life with him is not pleasant for anyone. Keep your chin up and know that you are not alone. You do not need or deserve that behavior from anyone!!!!