Or better yet... on further thought...you could simply say to the child "you need to mind your daddy"...that would put the responsibility in the child to follow the rules, she will see her mother working with her father (because she prob sees the oposite in an alcoholic home) and maybe give him an oportunity to see that there are other effective methods....after all we are all a product of our environment and this recovery thing has a learning curve on both sides of the street? Shoveling and thinking...