Good for you for 9 months of recovery!
I think resentments are a natural part of recovery. But, when we can't let go of resentment we have, that's a problem.
Have you talked to your husband and told him exactly how you feel about the issue of the car keys? It's a fine line, because I know in my case, I had spent most of three years drinking and I wanted everything to be okay as soon as I stopped drinking. I think there is such a fine line between a 'normal' wariness and simply making you feel bad.
With the cell phone and wedding ring, I think you might have to make a decision to let it go. If you don't or can't, it could seriously affect your mental health and your marriage. Again, talking to your husband and expressing how you feel could help.