I get candy and pink stuff for my kids, I get something nice for myself (I get myself flowers regularly, thank you!), and it's any other day. Tomorrow night a friend is going to come over and help me with my bike. Sinking some love back into my children and my hobbies is worthwhile.
Holidays always suck when you are having family and relationship problems. I'm learning to go my own way, even if it means ignoring the holiday or having some holiday time alone. I can't keep going to my FOO or my ex for fun and celebration if those wells are dry.