Thanks for the good wishes honeypig. Since I plan to discuss how certain behaviors make me feel as a first step, her response to that will be a good indicator of what I have to work with and I will go from there.
I've also wasted plenty of time on this in a past relationship. It was so bad that I could barely eat. I ended up losing 30 lbs in a short period of time. That's how much a human soul weighs.
Fortunately, through professional counseling, I learned that I always have the option of walking away and I came into this relationship with that in mind. I refuse to go through an extended period of the anxiety, grief and negative feelings again. This time, I have the tools and strength to prevent that from happening.
I do, however, need to give it a try. If I have to walk away, it will be easier knowing that I tried and I know there are plenty of good people here to provide support!