Originally Posted by
Threshold 
Being a pre addict, active addict, recovering addict or relapsing addict doesn't give anyone a pass card to be a jerk.
If his behavior is bad, that's the reality, and it needs to be addressed directly by both of you. End of story.
I am a recovering addict/alcoholic in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic. I also have mental illness, even that doesn't give me an excuse for bad behavior.
maybe i may have worded it wrong. i dont think h is a jerk in any way. it is just that maybe he just doesnt know how to react to things. if i want to have a normal conversation, he thinks i want to start an argument so he will treat it like one.
other than that, he really is a great guy. i even got flowers sent to my job today from him out of nowhere!