Originally Posted by
iwanthappiness 
Is this typical behavior initially from a RA? Thoughts on how to handle this?
What is the "R" part doing on there?
Sounds like a typical _A.
As far as handling this --
(please understand the following is about a year plan -- all on YOU -- no A, let alone R or H in the matter).
0. Get Prayed Up.
1. Alanon for YOU.
2. Alateen for the kids.
3. Detachment for you and the kids.
4. Boundaries for you and the kids.
5. Maybe T for you and the kids.
6. A new better life for you and the kids.
Do you know how do that, or get on that path?
Your A (H, R, or otherwise) may come along and meet you all with his own Program, somewhere along the path, or not -- but DO NOT may your path contingent on the A.