Matt I think that "my way" is a huge hindrance to getting well. It took me too long to realize that my way of life was not working and to win the battle of the bottle I needed to surrender and accept the fact I can not drink in safety, it's that simple for complicated people.
Years ago when I finally plugged the jug the emphasis was placed on not drinking AND living long term sobriety. The main benefit for me is being comfortable in my own skin which didn't come without effort and the hated word time.
BE WELL