i have a hard time sometimes with those kind of feelings popping up and like others have said with time and dealing with them, like forgiving yourself they do get better and i feel like for me they are lessons learned. I dont allow my memories to belittle me into feeling bad about the person i am now. I have grown from the person that did the hurtful things and that hurtful things were done to so it makes me stronger to know that I lived through all of that and made my ammends to the ones that i hurt.