I've thought about this, too, Woodman. I drink infrequently. It's been 6 months since my last alcoholic drink... that's not at all unusual for me. But, since I confronted STBXAH about his drinking last fall, and since I started Al-anon, I feel weird about drinking/not drinking. Now it feels like something I'm not supposed to do even though I rarely drink and have not drank to excess in years. Now not drinking is like following a rule as opposed to a total non-issue, if that makes sense?