When I first went to Al-Anon, I was ready to walk out of my marriage in the hopes of forcing my A to get sober. It was such a relief to hear those words: do nothing, just wait. So I did. I waited an entire year and kept going to Al-Anon. After that year, I was ready to leave my marriage FOR ME, and not for what I thought it might compel him to do. Same action, but totally different perspective and I had total peace of mind when I did it. Had I done it the year prior, I would have been heartbroken, frustrated and angry.